Knuckle Down Meaning: Getting sincere about something; applying oneself seriously to a job. Two impromptu Ice-breaker speeches – moving towards Goal 1. Did not win prize, got a participation certificate but the pleasure was in audience individuals – rank strangers coming back not just complimenting but quoting me ‘VERBATIM’ and saying, they loved it, they would like to keep in touch, some even said we would like to learn a few things from you. I was humbled.
Dropping Like Flies Meaning: To fall down ill or to die in large numbers. I wish it does not happen to humans, pests and insects, viruses and diseases is another matter. What I noticed today is the best Evaluators club of Toastmasters had difficulty in filling the hall with audience and participants for the Marathons the Area Directors are planning to hold across city. One actually said about ATTRITION of members? That was sad. It said a lot about the lack of leadership and the Pull and Push of the managing committees.
Man of Few Words Meaning: A person who does not speak a great deal; someone who talks with as few words as possible. Met an interesting person. He was my speech evaluator. His speciality is being brief and as an extempore impromptu ice breaker speaker who was pushed to speak – I had failed by exceeding the time limit. He said he will mail his evaluation ! That’s it. 🙂
Poke Fun At Meaning: Making fun of something or someone; ridicule. Had this experience. At the end of a dominant communicator speech the speaker did actually did not want any questions. When asked – he asked me to repeat thrice and explain 4 time and I was about to say – “Let’s take this off line as I did not ask this to challenge you but to support your views, just clarifying a point”. Some Speakers are on their High HOrse ! They feel, they are the only one who can challenge! Anyone asking a question is a lowly minion, dimwit and brainless. My Professorial hat tells me to answer them – Questions are never stupid – answers are – like mine 🙂 🙂 .
Hear, Hear Meaning: A shout of agreement, or to draw attention to a speaker. I asked the speaker that when a friend is faced with problems – should I make an appreciative enquiry and find what solutions he has in his mind, as he knows the problems best. Second, is my friend looking for an Affirmation that the solution he has found has my tacit support so that he can try it out with heart? I was taken round and round in derogatory circles with a menacing look on the face by a socalled Guinness Award winner and World Speech champion and I felt very sad for him. What did I do to hurt his Ego?
On the Same Page Meaning: Thinking alike or understanding something in a similar way with others. Sometimes, in a gathering when you wish to say that you are in the same boat, same page, thinking alike – it is best to use non-verbal communication like nodding your head to convey Yes, I agree.
Swinging For the Fences Meaning: Giving something your all. One more article coming up in a new club Newsletter which was launched today. Felt great. Meeting new Chamber of commerce and meeting some very interesting and interested people ( atleast on the face of it) I felt great and felt genuinely that there are things I can do to assist and help. The new Chairman was receptive and said wants to have a one on one Strategy/ vision statement session. He said he is a Visual thinker like me, that was pleasing.
Up In Arms Meaning: Angry; being roused to the point that you are ready to fight. But I gave up. I saw on Whatsapp the pictures of a poor girl being honored by a sport shoes company and giving them her name as she could not afford them. i felt sad for someone whose dream was ignited, latent wishes brought to fore in my mentoring but had given up on them with diffidence. I was angry inside but let go.
Quick and Dirty Meaning: Things that are fixed with great speed, but as a result, it’s probably not going to work very well. Hmmm… it was a busy day, I could have gone and got my Suits overhauled now that I have lost so much weight and bought a new pair of formal shoes as the formal meetings are moving up but I just changed jackets for two occasions – Reminder to self – GO FIX THIS ASAP.
Mountain Out of a Molehill Meaning: One who escalates small things and turns them into big problems. I found a senior evaluator indulging in overstatements, exaggerations, over praise, excessive acting skills show and was bit turned off. Then I met him one on one for about 7 minutes, got his life story out and realised that even at our late age – the need to RECOGNITION is so high that NAME AUR FAME KE LIYE KUCHH BHI KAREGA i.e. I’ll do any thing to get name and fame. I quietly agreed to disagreed and moved on to another person by saying “Sorry, Sir, I do not wish to monopolise you, others also need your kind attention”. Thank you.
- Let’s talk about purpose.
- It’s a word that gets thrown around a lot, and rarely understood. What is purpose? What does it mean to have a life purpose? First of all purpose means that we are devoted to something GREATER than ourselves.
- GREATER than surviving and making money.
- GREATER than looking good to other people.
- Having a purpose means we are connected to something that will last beyond our death.
- Purpose is a force of nature for a worthy cause that makes a real difference in the world – and only we can decide what that is.
- The funny thing is – power of purpose becomes most obvious when we LOSE our PURPOSE.
- We become like ships adrift at sea, unsure of where we are going.
- Without clear purpose, we become susceptible to falling off the path.
- Without a purpose, things seem to stop mattering.
- Nihilism takes hold.
- We begin to make bad choices.
- Who cares if we eat burgers and stop meditating? Nothing matters anyway!
- Who cares if we show up 100% for our family? It’s not a big deal!
- Feel like giving up on the things we are working on? Oh well!
- These are the kind of things that we begin doing when we have lost sight of our purpose.
- And still, when we HAVE PURPOSE, we become much more resilient.
- In fact, it’s been shown that people who have a purpose can sustain much more pain.
- Purpose acts as an analgesic that helps us persevere in the face of difficulty. That’s a complex of way of saying that purpose is a pain killer.
- If we are connected to our purpose – we won’t mind putting in the extra hours of work needed to get things handled.
- If we have a purpose, we won’t be thrown off by a little argument or someone being rude to us – because we are connected to that higher purpose and the small stuff doesn’t matter.
- Knowing our purpose – and letting it inspire usf to the greatest heights of your potential.
What do you think?
Free verse by jay
One afternoon I said to myself,
“Why isn’t the agreeable acquaintanceship more profound?”
Never forget the skin-deep and shallow agreeable acquaintanceship.
A charming cordiality, however hard it tries,
Will always be mutual.
Does the charming cordiality make you shiver?
Pay attention to the kinship,
kinship are the most wooly relation of all.
Are you upset by how wooly-minded they are?
Does it tear you apart to see the kinship so hirsute?
Why would you think the lost love is fatless?
the lost love is the most fat lover of all.
Never forget the fattish and portly lost love.
Chosen randomly Jay Mentor presents you with some choices
you may take as your character goals
- Better yourselves.
- Make a sacrifice for the greater good.
- Forgive somebody.
- Break an addiction.
- Find out your true identity.
- Gain the approval of somebody.
- Find peace within.
Each mentee/mentoree I meet has a different and unique need that helps them define their goals.
I shall share these regularly. Take your pick.
If you require Mentor support – write to me or call me.
Hard Pill to Swallow Meaning: Something that’s difficult to accept. Yes. I found Lies, white lies from close ones most unacceptable this morning.
Quality Time Meaning: Spending time with another to strengthen the relationship. Alas! If this was to have happened a few days ago.
Happy as a Clam Meaning: The state of being happy; feeling delighted. Yes. One would like to be as happy as a Clam.
A Fool and His Money are Soon Parted Meaning: It’s easy for a fool to lose his/her money. This is so true. I learn lessons every day.
Head Over Heels Meaning: Falling deeply in love with another person. This happened 38 years ago and keeps happening daily 🙂 I
Put a Sock In It Meaning: Asking someone to be quiet or to shut up. No. Won’t do that. I believe in giving people a voice – however, scared they may be :). Yes. I specialise in terrorising at times.
- Birds of a Feather Flock Together Meaning: People tend to associate with others who share similar interests or values. This is really true. I see so many phonies, so many ponzi operators, so many liars coming together, living together, defending each other all the time.
A Dime a Dozen Meaning: Something that is extremely common. Hmmm… Even the near genius can be so Random at times.
Poke Fun At Meaning: Making fun of something or someone; ridicule. This is second nature, I do this all the time. Call me Skeptic, Sceptical, critical, hypercritial or simply hypercurious.
Right Off the Bat Meaning: Immediately, done in a hurry; without delay. I love this phrase.
What Makes Us Cheat? Three Classic Experiments from Behavioral Economics.
Over a year ago by SIMON OXENHAM
Dan Ariely, the psychologist who popularised behavioral economics, has made a fascinating documentary with director Yael Melamede exploring what makes us dishonest. I’ve just finished watching it and it’s something of a masterpiece of psychological storytelling, delving deep into contemporary tales of dishonesty, and supporting its narrative with cunningly designed experiments that have been neatly reconstructed for the film camera.
Below are three excerpts I selected in which Ariely and his co-authors walk us through some of their most thought-provoking experiments and discuss their implications, reproduced here with the permission of the filmmaker.
The Matrix Experiments
Most people cheat a little bit, cumulatively this low-level cheating dwarfs the economic impact of those who cheat a lot.
The Human Capacity for Self-Deception
Most people believe they are somewhat better than average; not only is this statistically impossible, but also even when we know full well that we are cheating, we’ll still fool ourselves into believing otherwise. Our self-evaluation remains distorted even when our own money is at stake, a principle known as the optimism bias.
Whether or not we cheat has less to do with the probability of being caught, than whether or not we feel cheating is socially acceptable within our social circle.
For more of the above, I recommend watching Ariely’s film – (Dis)Honesty – The Truth About Lies, which includes more experiments from behavioral economics described in detail, along with some fascinating case studies from professional cheaters: athletes who’ve been caught doping, bankers who’ve been jailed for insider trading, and partners caught stepping out on their significant others.
Full disclosure: I received a free review copy of the film from the producers.
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