“You can’t have everything. Where would you put it?” Steven Wright
The youngest Pope in history was Pope Benedict IX who was 11 years old at the time of election. He is also the only person to have been the Pope more than once.
– Bill Bullard
When none challenge your ideas it is especially important to closely evaluate them.
Whatever you do in life, surround yourself with smart people who’ll argue with you. (John Wooden)
Unless you can walk on water it’ll take more to cross an ocean than walking on your feet.
You can’t cross the sea merely by standing and staring at the water. (Rabindranath Tagore)
Oscar Wilde was born in 1854 and died in 1900. During those all-too-brief years, he built a reputation that would long outlive him. And while today he is known for his literary works, he is arguably just as famous for his legendary wit — as well as the scandal and ensuing imprisonment that upturned his life.
As a literary figure, Wilde is perhaps best known for his play The Importance of Being Earnest, his only novel The Picture of Dorian Gray, and “The Ballad of Reading Gaol,” a poem he wrote in exile after his release from prison. But when Oscar Wilde’s name is mentioned, it’s not only his writing that people remember. The name is synonymous with flamboyant manners and rapier wit, and a certain type of genius that dazzled society, whether it was in the clubs of London or the lecture halls of the United States.
When Wilde went to the U.S. in 1882 to lecture primarily on aestheticism — an artistic movement that emphasized the aesthetic value of art, or “art for art’s sake” — he encountered a hostile press but was well received by the general public. The trip made him an international star. It also gave rise to one of the most famous quotes attributed to Wilde (though there’s no evidence to support the claim). When he arrived at U.S. customs to begin his tour (so the story goes), he was asked if he had anything to declare. With typical wit, he replied, “I have nothing to declare but my genius.”
Back in London, things turned sour when questions about Wilde’s private life spiraled out of control. His homosexuality became public knowledge, and soon he was charged with gross indecency and sentenced to two years of hard labor. His name was tarnished, his reputation left in tatters, and he spent his remaining years in exile in France, where he died in a cheap hotel in 1900. It was a tragic end, and sadly, even today, the events of his life are perhaps more widely known than his work.
But there was a lot more to Wilde than writing, wit, and scandal: He was a complex man with a complex personality. And as Wilde once wrote, “Personality is a very mysterious thing. A man cannot always be estimated by what he does. He may keep the law, and yet be worthless. He may break the law, and yet be fine. He may be bad without ever doing anything bad. He may commit a sin against society, and yet realize through that sin his true perfection.”
To better understand the man behind the myth, here are a few things you might not know about the ostentatious Oscar Wilde.
WILDE WAS THE SON OF FAMOUS PARENTS
The Wilde name was well known before Oscar made his mark. His father, Sir William Wilde, was an acclaimed otolaryngologist (ear, nose, and throat doctor) and ophthalmologist, who wrote significant works on medicine, archaeology, and folklore. His mother, Jane Wilde, was a poet and activist, known for her support of the Irish nationalist movement and women’s rights. As Wilde wrote in “De Profundis” (a letter he wrote from the Reading Gaol prison), “She and my father had bequeathed me a name they had made noble and honoured not merely in literature, art, archaeology and science, but in the public history of my own country in its evolution as a nation.”
ONE OF WILDE’S EARLY POEMS WAS IN MEMORY OF HIS DECEASED SISTER
When Wilde was 12 years old, his little sister, Isola, died of meningitis. He was deeply affected by her death, and later wrote a poem in her memory called “Requiescat.” It’s a beautiful, lyrical poem, in which Isola seems to be at once dead and alive: “Tread lightly, she is near / Under the snow, / Speak gently, she can hear / The daisies grow.”
WILDE LOST HIS IRISH ACCENT AT OXFORD…
J.E.C. Bodley, a friend of the young Wilde during his Oxford University days, said Wilde was “naïve, embarrassed, with a convulsive laugh, a lisp, and an Irish accent.” But Wilde adjusted to life at Oxford, and became a brilliant student. He also lost his accent, stating later in life that “my Irish accent was one of the many things I forgot at Oxford.” Wilde’s voice in later life was described by the actor Franklin Dyall as “of the brown velvet order — mellifluous — rounded — in a sense giving it a plummy quality” and “practically pure cello.” Unfortunately, a recording of Wilde reading “The Ballad of Reading Gaol” turned out to be a fake, and no other recordings are known to exist.
…BUT HE WAS ALWAYS IRISH IN HIS HEART
While some of Wilde’s works can be described as quintessentially “English” plays, Wilde himself never abandoned his Irish roots. When public performances of his play Salomé were banned in Britain — on the basis of it being illegal to depict biblical characters on the stage — Wilde hit back in an interview, saying “I shall leave England and settle in France, where I will take out letters of naturalization. I will not consent to call myself a citizen of a country that shows such narrowness in its artistic judgement.” He then added, “I am not English; I’m Irish — which is quite another thing.”
WILDE FELL IN LOVE WITH A WOMAN WHO LATER MARRIED BRAM STOKER
In his early twenties, Wilde became besotted with a beautiful young woman called Florence Balcombe. When they first met, he told a friend, “I am just going out to bring an exquisitely pretty girl to afternoon service in the Cathedral. She is just seventeen with the most perfectly beautiful face I ever saw and not a sixpence of money.” They dated for months, but distance put a strain on their relationship. Then Florence met Bram Stoker, who would later go on to write Dracula. They married, and Wilde was devastated. He wrote Florence a letter in which he called their time together “two sweet years — the sweetest of all the years of my youth.” They remained friends for years after.
OSCAR WILDE WAS MARRIED AND HAD CHILDREN
Due to Wilde’s well-documented homosexuality, people often don’t realize that he was married and had two children. Wilde married Constance Lloyd, an Irish author, in London in 1884. During their first two years of marriage they had two sons together, Cyril and Vyvyan. No one knows when Constance became aware of Oscar’s homosexual relationships, but she met his lover, Lord Alfred Douglas, in 1891. The ensuing scandal and Wilde’s imprisonment placed an impossible strain on their relationship. Constance changed her surname and moved to Switzerland. She died in 1898, and Oscar never saw his two sons again.
WILDE FIRST FILED THE SUIT OF LIBEL THAT WOULD BE HIS UNDOING
Wilde met Lord Alfred “Bosie” Douglas, who was 16 years his junior, in 1891. The two soon became lovers. Douglas was the third son of the Marquess of Queensberry, famous for creating the Queensberry Rules of boxing. When Queensberry found out about his son’s relationship, he tried to end it in various ways. At one point he left a card for Wilde, which simply said “For Oscar Wilde, posing sodomite.” This prompted Wilde to prosecute Queensberry for libel. It backfired terribly, and Wilde himself ended up in court on multiple charges of gross indecency related to his homosexuality. He was found guilty and sentenced to two years hard labor. All this occurred at the height of his fame and success, while The Importance of Being Earnest was still being performed in London. After his conviction, Wilde’s life was never the same.
OSCAR WILDE RETAINED HIS LEGENDARY WIT TO THE VERY END
Wilde spent his last three years impoverished and in exile in France. Some of his closest friends visited him and stayed with him to the end, as Oscar faded away in a dingy hotel in Paris. He was a broken man, but his wit could not be destroyed. As he lay looking at the surroundings of his cheap hotel room, he uttered some of his final words: “My wallpaper and I are fighting a duel to the death. One or the other of us has to go.” It was classic Oscar Wilde, and the quote is often listed among the greatest last words ever spoken.
WILDE WAS POSTHUMOUSLY PARDONED IN 2017
Wilde feared that he had ruined his family name. In his letter “De Profundis,” he wrote: “I had disgraced that name [Wilde] eternally. I had made it a low byword among low people. I had dragged it through the very mire.” But Wilde, on this occasion, was wrong: His name would not be disgraced eternally, although it did take more than a century for an official annulment of his conviction. In 2017, Wilde was one of some 75,000 gay men in England and Wales pardoned by Queen Elizabeth II. All of these men had been convicted for now-abolished sex offences. This royal pardon is informally known as the Turing Law, named after Alan Turing, the World War II codebreaker who, like Wilde, was convicted for his homosexuality. Turing was officially pardoned in 2013, 61 years later.
Today, Wilde is still remembered for his exuberant lifestyle and infamous imprisonment as much as for his work. Nonetheless, The Picture of Dorian Gray and The Importance of Being Earnest are still considered great literary masterpieces of the late Victorian period, and both display Wilde’s indomitable wit and consummate eye for beauty.
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Global Forgiveness Day – 7 July
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Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.
— Lucille Ball
I’m fortunate to be a coward, to have a low threshold of fear, because a hero couldn’t make a good suspense film.
— Alfred Hitchcock
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.
— Judy Garland
Intentions often melt in the face of unexpected opportunity.
— Shirley Temple
Things are never so bad they can’t be made worse.
— Humphrey Bogart
Never confuse the size of your paycheck with the size of your talent.
— Marlon Brando
So much of life, it seems to me, is determined by pure randomness.
— Sidney Poitier
You don’t always win your battles, but it’s good to know you fought.
— Lauren Bacall
The problem with the people who have no vices is that generally you can be pretty sure they’re going to have some pretty annoying virtues.
— Elizabeth Taylor
Happiness is good health and a bad memory.
— Ingrid Bergman
A shot of brandy can save your life, but a bottle of brandy can kill you.
— Cary Grant
One nice thing about silence is that it can’t be repeated.
— Gary Cooper
Men who think deeply say little in ordinary conversations.
— Charlie Chapman
You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.
— Audrey Hepburn
There was more good acting at Hollywood parties than ever appeared on the screen.
— Bette Davis
Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell.
— Joan Crawford
The best gift you can give yourself is the gift of possibility.
— Paul Newman
Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes.
— Sophia Loren
You’ve achieved success in your field when you don’t know whether what you’re doing is work or play.
— Warren Beatty
The more you are like you, the less you are like others and this makes you truly unique.
The more you like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique. (Walt Disney)
Those who love you will come back to you even if you let them go.
If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were. (Richard Bach)